We’ve all been asked at one time or another “If you could change anything that has happen in your life, what would you change?”. I always answer with “Not a DAMN thing”. I usually get that look. You know the one…. the shock, sometimes the skepticism, sometimes the ya right look. I follow it up with an explanation on why I wouldn’t change a thing.
I am a very strong believer in things happen for a reason based on our choices. No, I don’t go through life thinking its one big game of chance. Nor do I believe that someone is sitting up in the sky chucking road blocks at me. I do however, believe that events and people are put before us for a reason.
Everything that has been presented to me has given me the opportunity to learn something. Not that I always wanted to learn that particular lesson or even participate for that matter! But I always have a choice. There are times when I don’t even know what I am suppose to learn from a particular life lesson, but I do know that the lesson will present itself eventually. Based on my choice. I tell my kids quite often that you always have a choice. You can do it happily or unhappily but either way its gonna get done. Mind you, that is for things like the dishes, laundry or some other chore they whine about.
Funny thing is, life is kinda like that too. You can bury your head in the sand and hope it passes or you can grab the bull by the horns and ride. You may not be happy about the situation but here it is, what’s your choice?
Some people (I call then victims of the world) just stumble through life moaning and complaining about everything that has happened to them. Like they had nothing to do with the way life treats them. We all know those folks. Whine, snivel, complain. Nothing in their lives ever seems to go right. The poor me of society. I often wonder how they can’t see that they make choices, whether its conscience or not.
Burying your head in the sand IS a choice people. You are choosing to allow others to make your choices for you by not stepping in and giving direction. I prefer the ‘grab the horns and lets ride’ method. Life knocks, I answer. Yes, sometimes I have steered in the other direction. Yes, many times I have set that pity party table for one. Yes, many times I have cried “WHY ME”. But I always, ALWAYS take responsibility for the outcome. For MY decisions.
So if you ask me “If you could change anything about your life, what would you change?” I will answer with NOT A DAMN THING. Because all those CHOICES I have made have got me to a pretty good place. Right here.